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The Master Prefers What Occurs

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THE MASTER PREFERS WHAT OCCURS
 
If you have been reading any of my posts throughout this worldwide adventure, you have probably noticed we have had some of the highest of highs but also some really low lows.
 
Whenever you make a huge life change, you have to be willing to accept that so much of what you thought to be true is going to be challenged.
 
Many of us go through our days and consequently our life going through the motions.
 
It is almost like driving your car to work or driving home from work.
 
In the beginning, you notice every turn, every stop light, every beautiful home and every ugly home. You notice exactly what the road feels like and every pothole or bump. You pay attention to which lanes move faster and the ones that have a tendency to get backed up.
 
In short, you are fully awake and fully present.
 
Then something happens.
 
You get into a routine. You stop noticing things and you just start going through the motions.
 
This happens to all areas of our life if we are not careful.
 
When our job becomes routine, we start to go through the motions.
 
When our relationships become routine, we start to go through the motions.
 
When we are just going through the motions, life becomes ordinary. There is much less effort involved.
 
We live in the middle when the highs are just above the midline and the lows are just below the midline. We never experience the true highs or lows that life has to offer.
 
Sometimes I wish I could live in the midline. It seems a lot easier and sometimes easier looks good to me.
 
The problem is there is something about my DNA that doesn’t allow me to do “easy.”
 
Sometimes that leads me to the peak of a mountain, literally, experiencing some of the most amazing views and feeling like I am on top of the world.
 
Other times it leads me down in the dumps pondering my identity and my very existence.
 
This has been my MO since I have been a kid.
 
Looking back though, I can see the lesson in every challenge and every victory. I can see the beauty in the amazing moments and the lessons I learned from the really crappy ones. When I do this, I am in full gratitude.
 
The biggest challenge is feeling that sense of gratitude in the moment of facing great adversity. It’s a lot easier to experience it in hindsight.
 
It has been said that ‘the master prefers what occurs.’
 
This goes for everything – the good and the bad.
 
- Matt Westheimer
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037: Is Clutter Keeping You Stuck?

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How many times have you walked by the messy office or table and said to yourself that you will take care of it another day only to watch that space become messier and messier?

Clutter is a distraction. A cluttered external space represents a cluttered internal space and a clutter internal space does not attract abundance.

Literally, this week I cleaned up a couple of cluttered spaces in my life and saw massive growth. It happens ever time.

Give it a try and see for yourself.

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Finding Calm in the Chaos…

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Amed, Bali

 I used to think that finding calmness in the chaos was impossible. I used to think there was a correlation between our physiology and our circumstances. I used to think a peaceful mind was the result of an easy life.

I find more and more that paradoxically the opposite to be true. I find that the people that have the most peace and calmness in their lives are the ones that have had to overcome the most adversity. I find that finding calm in the chaos is the path to resilience, and resilience is like a suit of armor against suffering.

As the ancient Buddhist proverb says, “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”

I find the greatest gift we can give ourselves when we are going through a challenge, stressful event, or personal chaos is to get back to the breath. Our breath directly effects our physiology. Typical breathing we do when we are under stress is short and shallow breathing. This breathing activates our sympathetic nervous system and drives us deeper into a state of stress. This detrimental feedback loop continues until we break it. A simple way to break it is to come back to our breath. Take deep and intentional belly breaths. This takes us out of sympathetic dominance and into the parasympathetic zone.

When we get back to our breath, it accomplishes 2 things:

Number one is it takes us out of sympathetic dominance and relaxes our physiology.

Number two is it breaks our focus on the challenge and centers us in a present state. It is impossible to focus on two things at once. When we think we are focusing on two things at once, what we are really doing is bouncing back and forth between the two so quickly it only seems like we are focusing on both at the same time.

For example, right now in your mind, I want you to describe the room you are located in vivid detail. At the same time, I want you to think of your “to do” list for the day.

Got it?

Next time you’re going through a challenge and think there is no way out, get back to the breath.

As Albert Einstein said, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking used when we created them.”

You still have to do the work, but this is a great start.

Keep mindful,

Dr. Matt Westheimer