…is not having control over my choices.
There is a HUGE difference between being a control freak or trying to control everything (which I must admit I am and do at times) and losing control over the choices we make.
Being a control freak or trying to control everything in our lives is mentally and physically exhausting because it is an impossibility. We can NOT control everything. Many things will happen in our lives that are out of our control. Bad stuff happens. That is life.
The one thing we can never avoid is the opportunity to control the choices we make in the face of adversity and/or opportunity.
Viktor Frankl said it best, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
This is why I make a big deal if I let my alarm beat me in the morning. This is why I make a big deal if I made a choice to eat a certain way, yet I let the french fries in front of me break down my willpower. This is why anytime I do not follow through on a conscious choice or commitment, a fire rises up inside of me.
That’s because it is the choices we make every moment of every day that shape our lives. It takes practice and it takes work, but with great work comes great opportunity for growth.
What vices have you let beat you lately and what are you going to do about it?
It is our choices that shape our lives. The seemingly insignificant everyday choices are what shape our lives. Just $10 per day compounded at 5% over 40 years leads to almost $500,000 in savings! Who says $10 doesn’t make a difference?
The same can be said for our relationship capital, our mental capital, and our emotional capital. Reading just 1 book per month leads to 120 books in 10 years. Just 10 minutes per day of meditation leads to 600 hours of presence and spiritual connection over the course of 10 years.
I think you get the point by now.
Are you going to go down without a fight or put in the consistent work to make a difference in your life?
Dr. Matt Westheimer