If you just looked at the pictures I have been posting, you would think this around-the-world trip has been all sunshine and rainbows.
This assumption could NOT be further from the truth.
Yes, the trip has been an amazing experience, but for every beautiful photo I post on Facebook, there is an equal and opposite experience that I can’t post or would be inappropriate to post.
I remember reading a great message a while back: “The problem with social media is that it isn’t real. Everyone just posts their highlight reel. We get depressed or feel bad because we compare our blooper reel with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
A powerful message that I need to remind myself of often.
While we have done amazing things like paddle boarding in secret lagoons on pristine islands in Siargao and had a breathtaking scuba diving experience in El Nido, we have also had many challenges that we couldn’t or would be inappropriate to take pictures of.
I couldn’t take a picture of 2 weeks of cold and barely usable showers. For a week, I had to bath using just a “tabo,” which is basically using a small bucket to dump water over yourself because our shower was not working.
I couldn’t take a picture of the heat we had to combat for a whole week because our villa had no air-conditioning and the screens for the windows were so dirty, they would barely let any air through.
I couldn’t take a picture of the fact that I have not had a good night sleep in over 2 weeks due to the heat, pillows that felt like they were stuffed with a handful of cotton balls, scratchy sheets, barking dogs, and loud motorbikes and honking cars, and many times a combination of the above.
I couldn’t take pictures of the re-arranged flights and nasty weather that kept us from surfing which was the main reason we went to Siargao. On the plus side, we did get to do SUP in the Sugba Lagoon which was amazing.
I couldn’t take pictures (or I guess I could but that would be gross) of the dirty clothes I have had to re-wear because I ran out of clothes and couldn’t find any place to wash them.
As we all go through life, we have choices we get to make.
Do we run our own race or do we run some else’s race?
I notice that many times when I am unhappy, frustrated, or depressed, I am comparing myself to someone else; I am focusing on what I don’t have rather than what I do have; I am focusing on what is missing rather than what is present.
Run your own race. Be present. Practice gratitude. Meditate. Continue to refine your core values and live congruently with them more and more each day.
And please stop comparing your blooper reel with everyone else’s highlight reel.